A special friend and human connection.

There are so many things to write about now that I am a 21 year old lad. I have many views and many beliefs now. I often type on my Facebook statuses these days. That was cool, because it is worth sharing things that have a certain kind of value. :)

Too many things to type about that I don't really know where to start. Maybe I would like to start writing about someone who validates my claim that cross-sex platonic friendships do work despite that romantic circumstances seem inevitable.

Her name is Verlie. She is a 21 year old lass who is 2 days older than me. She is the eldest of 3 sisters and a nursing graduate who is currently working in a call center in Quezon city. I may have had a reference to her in my previous posts saying that we share 30+ common characteristics, but I believe now that we have like 100+ characteristics.

You see, Verlie and I haven't met personally yet as we plan to do soon. We have only met virtually in a Q&A website called Yahoo! Answers. I added her as part of my contacts and I guess, she contacted me and that's where we started our acquaintanceship. I have selective retrograde amnesia with my friendship with her prior to the last days of January 2012, when she contacted me after a long hiatus of communication.

Nowadays, we contact each other every single day via CMC (Computer-Mediated-Communication) using Facebook Chat and SMS. Can't you believe that my diary is now filled with our SMS conversations? Wow! That's how special she is to me. Hahahahahaha!!!!

Verlie is a fantastic woman in many ways. I get to know and understand her deeply like I never did before. You see, this is like the most intimate friendship I've ever had and that is something I adore, savor and cherish for the rest of the time. I will never forget her for we have helped each other in bad times and appreciated each other in good times. I am proud to say that I love her as a FRIEND (Emphasis intended for clarity sake). I have written a lot about her in my diaries. We trust and we can understand each other.

Let me say honestly, that there was a time that I nearly fell in love with her but I resisted with great might fearing that it might destroy the friendship. Now, we have really grown resilient already. We click and we can dance the tango as if we have really 100% known each other since birth. Hahahahaha!!! She said that we are like twins.

5 notebooks of my diaries (including the current one) are dominated by our SMS conversations. I even put the date and time sent. It ate the pages very very fast. Last February I was on my 21st notebook, now I am on my 25th notebook which is like 30 pages away from being full. That's how constant our conversation it is.

Verlie is someone who I admire and who I can communicate with everyday. She is someone very special to me. I made her poems and I have surprises for her. She surprises me sometimes. So, we have our good times and our bad times and these times I say, makes our friendship deeper and stronger. She is evidence that friendship can happen in a cross-sex relationship.

Here's what I wrote in my diary today about communication:

"I do believe in my heart that constant communication is vital in every relationship because relationships always start with communication. 


A relationship can never exist without communication. Constant communication will determine the assurance of a great relationship. The more open, and direct communications get, the better the relationship will get."


The better the relationship, the stronger it is. So, this is why open and direct communication is needed. In order to have open communication, one has to have an open-mind and one has to be aware of what the other person is thinking and feeling if care and concern is involved in a relationship.

This is what I aim in every friendship I establish with others, like Verlie. I may not have the social skills, but I have the written communication skills, but frankly this is not enough to have a good social life. I will write about that in another post.

So, Verlie, like me, like everyone has flaws and imperfections, in an authentic relationship, it is best to accept the fact that everyone is perfectly imperfect despite of our yearning in achieving certain idealistic objectives.

Verlie is like another aspect of me which undiscovered of unexplored. She can look into me and tell me the truth about my being and reality. It is helpful because she cares. She doesn't define me but she helps me define myself. Sometimes I see complementarity in our relationship. There are times I do feel incomplete and somewhat inadequate whenever I write about her. There is a missing piece in the puzzle I cannot truly fathom. Thank you, Verlie, my favorite friend, for being there and taking the patience to establish and go with me a journey through road less traveled.

I know and I acknowledge the the reality or the fate of inevitability of a romantic relationship as I believe that the difference between a romantic and a cross-sex platonic relationship can sometimes blur, but it is our freewill to take these choices. No body is forcing us, only the physiological circumstances forces us to do this but if we can manipulate the chi or the energy that drives our libido, we can converted that into something productive and authentic. Yes, boys and girls can be friends and true enough, this friendship is evidence. :)

Alfred Adler said that everything is based on social feeling or social connections. I believe that to be true, more than the sexuality of Freud.

Human connection is indeed important because one cannot live without the absolute presence of one another. We hug to make ourselves feel good that we are not alone. We care to make ourselves that there is someone who loves us as who we are. The only problem is, all of these things deal with vulnerability and it all starts from within.

The problem of vulnerability, insecurity and cowardice is a deep problem of existential anxiety. Is this the root problem of everything ? The answer will come up in another post.

Typing Resurrection

It is today I have decided to type again after a very long period of great hiatus. I never knew that there would be many views lately. Whenever I look back into my writings specifically in my blog posts, diaries and poems, I figured that I am making a name for myself.

The very reason why I stopped typing here is something to do with laziness or some sort of fear and anxiety out there which I worry a lot. It seems that now I am encouraged by different forces of extrinsic motivation, I guess I have to re-start the hobby and resurrect my literature into action, which is yet to be remember for a very long time. :) I am glad that I have returned to this. :)

is conflict is a human trait?

It can be, if it is irreconcilable. Conflict can come from the traits of aggression and megalomania as well.

Give me your best shot! :)

Name a serious case that should not be taken seriously =P

Worrying about negative things. I worry too much and that's a characteristic for a neurotic like me. I sometimes see things as if there is a perceived element of danger while there is actually no danger at all. I know that I am some kind of a pessimist most of the time, but I can be a realist and a optimist at certain times. Worrying wastes too much energy, and time. I brood a lot as well.

Give me your best shot! :)

How do you relax?

Frankly, I don't really know how to relax. I know meditation and hypnosis can work but I have hard time focusing on them. My mind is as free as a monkey, never to be stay put. My thoughts is like a monkey.

Give me your best shot! :)

Who knows you best?

My friend named Verlie.

Give me your best shot! :)

What's the best thing that's happened to you this month?

Proving that Platonic friendships can truly exist.

Give me your best shot! :)