The Simple Essence of Love

Love is something I do admire in people. It is an intrinsic part of human nature. Love will never be wasted or outdated. It is an emotion that human beings deeply feel. It encourages the growth and development of the person to the highest level. It presents the dichotomy of emotional pleasure and pain. We struggle to maintain the realism of love just by imposing rules of conditionality that will make it more challenging to maintain a relationship, romantic in particular. Romantic pessimism will only make things worse because their misery of romance is focused on emotional pain. They hurt themselves and they hurt others.

Frankly the moment love hurts is the moment when true love no longer exists. Pure love is not pain, but pleasure. A pleasure to share, to help, to care and to comfort. It is both an egoistic and an altruistic act. It is egoistic in a sense that we give ourselves the ecstatic pleasurable feeling. It is altruistic in a sense that we give others the ecstatic pleasurable feeling. When our acts of love benefits others, it will make them feel good and it will also make us feel good about ourselves on how we execute the act. So, therefore, love benefits everyone. It is one of the most emotionally pleasurable experiences a human person can experience in his lifetime and that is human love. We wish for the best for everyone.

Love is not only an emotion, a feeling or an act, it is also an imperative need for survival. We all need love and feel loved. Love is not a want but a need. If it were a want, it would be optional. If it would be optional, then our existence would be mechanical or a void of nothingness. We all deserve to be loved and love. Love nurtures the being into a mood of positivity. To love is to oblige to promote the growth and development of the self and others towards happiness and other pleasures. To feel loved is a great pleasure because it feels so good.

Love is reserved for humans and animals, not for objects. We often attach ourselves to objects simply because they are important to us and we believe that we can't really live without them when we actually could. We could cathect with objects but the love for these objects are egoistically superficial due to the fact that the object cannot love us back and that is unrequited love. We love different objects only if it gives us a feeling of pleasure and that feeling would make us happy. Happiness is not in the objects, it is in how we enjoy things.

Love people, not objects. People can think, feel, sense, perceive and express. Objects cannot, unless it is programmed to do so which is partially possible.

Love should be unconditional because you have to accept the perfect imperfections of people. You have to accept everything, even though it is difficult. You also have to show the unconditionality of the love. How? Believe the person, acknowledge the faults, support, care and understand the person no matter what the situation is. True love happens with trust, responsibility, honesty, open communication, open-mindedness and other prosocial states of mind and behavior.

It is better to stay hungry than to stay unloved, because food is something materialistic and something money can buy. Love is priceless, multifaceted, multi-perceptual, profound and is felt by the heart. It is something money can never buy, even with a googolplex of pesos and dollars at hand. Food satisfies the body. Love satisfies the soul of the human person.

Love people by understanding, sharing something, taking care, protecting, empathizing, supporting, helping, and other things as these are ways how you can show love to people through action which is beyond words. It is proven and tested. These are the valid actions of love, especially to the boy's treatment to girls which I will write about in the future. Make them feel good. Make them feel that you really care about them as if they are very special people in your life. So, God bless, Take Care and I love you all. :)