Listen! Parents and Guardians

Having a family is a big responsibility. That I know. There are parents out there who tends to not really listen to their children which is a big no-no. Why? The children will develop socio-cultural skills through the parents and friends. Intensive Criticism without listening is not helping the hostile interaction to a tranquil commonplace. It is not a boost for the child's self-esteem as it may result on depression. This is why ADOLESCENTS COMMIT SUICIDE and TAKE ILLEGAL PSYCHOACTIVE DRUGS.

If the parents think negative, the children will think negative. If the parents think positive, the children will think positive. Parents are considered as the 1st role-models for life. The children are like parental reflections in the infantile to the early-school ages.

LISTENING is the best way to interact because you can know more from them as much as they know more from you. Be inspirational as they will be inspired by your proverbial thoughts.

Adolescence is a road to the future moral, responsibly independent self. Assess your adolescents according to your understanding and their understanding of a particular situation.

Maturity is the determination on the coordinative Chronological and Psychological development. If there are some inconsistencies, this signifies that there is some factored misguidance in the development of the child that has to be identified for it to be corrected to a certain legal extent.

Low Self-esteem = Low Maturity. Because of psychological regression. It is a virtual developmental travel to the old self. This may be a result of overprotection.

So the parents and guardians must understand and observe the nature of their children and must only intervene when needed.

Some parental actions may alter the personality of the child through certain repression or other reactions. It is important to help shape the personality to a limit. Not exceeding that. Exceeding is Overprotecting. Overprotecting is Overworrying and being anxious.

Overprotection is the extreme dependence of the child's superego to the parent's superego.

The ONLY REASON why children always lies, hiding something, does something vicious IS misunderstanding of their personality. It is a consecutive consequence of negative parental actions. They do this because they are anxious of the aggressive reactions of the parents and guardians thinking that they have no love no more.

Even though I am an adolescent I could advancely put my shoes as a parent in imagination and realize the difficulty.

Imagine yourself as a parent taking care 10 children and you are undisciplined, socially inapt, irresponsible, low self-esteem, other negative traits. How would you expect yourself to be successful in life? Your children will too adapt similar traits as you and your spouse.

If the parentage possess those traits, you should not be proud or arrogant that the children you raise may be like you because what matters is not the beginning but the end.

Whenever interpersonal family conflicts and misunderstandings occur, talking as a family and give action to those conflicts as a family as much as it should be resolved immediately. Good relationship lasts on ground while bad relationships does not last on sea.

COME ON! It is the responsibility of the parents to let illegal drugs, pre-marital sex to occur at their children's fate. If those children have no knowledge about these what so ever, the parents should be accused for parental negligence of knowledge to the child against adverse entities.

A good and effective parent must be:

• Responsible
• Motivator
• Good and effective Listener
• Moderate and effective disciplinarian
• Logical
• Positive Authority Figure
• Loving, Caring and Understanding Figure
• Competent
• Can correlate
• Managable
• Helpful
• Fearless
• Disciplined
• Organized
• Time-managable
• Good Self-esteem
• Tact
• Financially-managable

I am not sure if there are other characteristics I've missed, but this is more or less the main points of an ideal parent. A good parent is a facilitator for a good and competent family.

Standing and running is just like being good and effective.

Remember this, You guys have only one lifetime to live and you should uphold the saying "Sapere Aude (Dare to know)". Know this that your children have their own life and you cannot control them as they are programmed to be controlled by you unless it is only chores and stuff. The more you control them, the more they become dependent on you. The more they become dependent on you, the more altered their personality becomes. The more altered their personality becomes, the more irregular they become. This is not necessarily the case but it is one aspect of a board of possibilities.

Always keep in mind the consequences of your actions. You may either accept or regret it for the rest of your life as these actions are tests of decisions and they have thought you
an inspirational and valuable lesson in life. CARPE DIEM!

PLS. If you accept and understand more of their behavior and their words, they will too trust you with love and accept and understand you no matter what it takes.

YOU CONTROL YOURSELF NOT OTHERS. PARENTS ARE ONLY GUIDES NOT CHILD CONTROLLERS. Remember, the children of today will be the parents of tomorrow.

If The conditions of the children of today is bad then the conditions of the children of tomorrow will be worse.

Reflect and be yourself. Fellows, Be inspired and go on live your life as if there is no tomorrow.