Aphoristic reflections of anger and hatred.

"It's better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not".

I agree with this quote. Hatred is disgust of other's personality and a expression of utmost dislike that does not fit into the norms or cultural standards.

"Loved for who you are not". -creates a sense of falsity and hypocrisy in one's personality. Hypocrisy is feigning high principles. Words can be subjected to trickery. Until the people found out that you are a hypocrite, you realized that you can no longer be trusted but be betrayed. You can longer see joy because you have regretted that you have chosen that option to be hypocritical. Socrates once said that "AN UNEXAMINED LIFE IS NOT WORTH LIVING". If you don't examine your life, you will not end up successfully. "KNOW THYSELF" Socrates Said.

We are composed of our own choices in life, it is our decisions that makes us who we really are today. Be wise, because the fools are the people who are intrapersonally idiotic (Relating to the Intrapersonal Intelligence of Multiple Intelligences).

"Hated for who you are". - creates a sense of non-acceptance of absurdity that does not fit in into the social norms in one's personality as proclaimed by the others.

Ego(t)ism - making personal welfare and interests your primary or only concern, sometimes at the expense of others (Selfishness)

Altruism - an attitude or way of behaving marked by unselfish concern for the welfare of others. (Selflessness)

Altruism is an important element in friendship.

Imagine a ego(t)istic boy meeting a altruistic girl as friends in a park. The girl wants to borrow his book, and she promised to return it in 1 week. The boy said "yes, go ahead", but in a few minutes, the boy realized that they wouldn't be meeting each other for a long time. So, the boy suddenly snatched the book from the girl, because the boy thinks that he will need the book for some research. The girl hated the boy for being ego(t)istic.

There is another lesson to be learned here. Think very wisely before you act because you will have regrets when it comes to the end of that certain event.

So in this case, "It is better to be hated as an ego(t)ist than to be loved as an altruistic hypocrite."


"Getting angry is actually punishing yourself with the mistakes of others" - Cheng Yen (May 11, 1937 - Present)

(I have seen this quote on my 1st trip (March 13, 2009) with Sir Em to MV Doulos (Which left Manila today) posted on the rear wind shield of a "Revo Tamaraw FX Toyota GLX 1.8EFI (Electronic Fuel Injection)" with the License plate of WEF-701)

(This quote came from the "Still thoughts of Master Cheng Yen" with the courtesy of Buddhist Tzu Chi Foundation, Phil. )

I do agree with this quote by the Master. People use anger as a way to express which is a need. Anger results from frustration and aggression which may came from annoyance. Anger should be used limitedly not to the point of humiliation and destruction (This is called rage). It is a self-harming punishment because we waste the majority of our kinetic energy.

This is why there is a treatment called "ANGER MANAGEMENT" and it's all over the internet. The strict people out there should learn how to deal with it for they are no God to all. We struggle alot with frustration that complete repression and complete outrage are disadvantagous means of dealing with it. Therefore, the Aristotelian golden mean can be applied here.

If we correct the mistakes of others, then we harm ourselves for these mistakes, if not, then we wouldn't be helping others. If there are people who are very uncooperative, it is better to loose them than to keep them for they do not contribute any work to the group work, otherwise, you will end up blowing your head out with unecessary rage.

Think about the physiology of anger in our bodies.

Look here: http://www.healthmad.com/Mental-Health/Physiology-of-Anger.38920

Mind you, the dangers is a warning against excessive anger.

Pls. learn so you will understand. You will know what to do and what will happen to you when you experience this. GRACIAS!