Controlling Parental Overprotection

Let me clarify the title: "Controlling" in this sense is not a verb but a noun. This is a type of overprotection.

This type of parenting will not have a successful ending, because it will spoil the child to his/her laziness. It is fairly ineffective that guardians out there must NOT convince the child that they control them. In the end, the children treated under this parenting will realize that their superego strongly adheres to the morals of the parent. Therefore, the child gets weak, anxious and will have low self-esteem. This low self-esteem may also result in poor self-image and lack of motivation of self-care. This will delay the normal process of socialization, thus becomes an introvert who doesn't stand for him/herself for whatever s/he believes in.
This personality tends to become passive and sensitive to external aggression. The child doesn't want to say no to his/her guardian/parent because, they fear that the guardian might be aggressive or so. All of these delays may then result to misunderstandings and conflicts. When this happens, there is a high probability of making that person a social deviant.

Depression and relations with other people are also factors to the child's development. The child may also lack self-love and love for others because they may feel that they are alone and lack friends. This does not make the child holistically and responsibly independent, self-reliant and resilient. The establishment of mutual unconditional understanding, acceptance and love is necessary for the child to experience a normal life. LOVE IS THE BEST ANTI-DEPRESSANT and it promotes the best positive energy.

My uncles and my mom has experienced these already and they do not know the reality behind it. I am undergoing this process now. WE ARE WHO WE ARE, NOT WHO THEY ARE.

Would you like to have a parent or guardian who judges extrinsically (Judging without looking into details), who oversimplifies his/her ideas, who misunderstands and not listen to their offsprings, who unreasonably criticises the lapses in the child's personality and attitude, or even instilling fear and anxiety?

Once we are unreasonably criticized, we regress our feelings and expression and not argue, but to accept the case. THIS IS WHAT IS SEE IN MY CASE.

Is it immoral for me to convince the person with these faults? Is it immoral for me to be myself?

Criticism vs. Help- For those who go for extreme criticism must think again and observe what behavior would you see in that person. For those who go for help, I praise you because you must understand not just know the cases.

This is why children are not close to their parents or guardians. This is why children run away and be social deviants. Pls. remember my points in my other post on parenting and guardianship. A Disjunctive relationship will lead to dysfunctional socialization.

Don't be too restrictive, because there is a high chance of your child being a selfish, passive, uncooperative parent.

Proper development is natural but with external influences and factors that will lead to family authoritarianism is so uncivilian, so demanding and that child will likely have an extra channel to deviance.

Corporal Punishment should be universally classified as IMMORAL and be banned. Those people who do punishments or excessive discipline do not understand the behavior of their child and the neurological differences of different genders.

I must say that I am immaturely dependent just by being spoiled. Hopefully, there will be deep researches on these matter.